what kind of music a person listens to. What plays on your ipod has nothing to do with if I want to be your friend or not. I will never understand why that is such a big deal to some people. They say things like, “Well, I’m really into music.” And? I read a lot but just because someone else doesn’t read the same books as me or hell, just because they don’t read for enjoyment, doesn’t mean I’m not going to spend time with them. I think it’s bullshit to use taste in music as criteria for a friendship or any kind of relationship. I will willingly and guiltlessly admit to enjoying My Chemical Romance, Underoath, Good Charlotte, A Day To Remember, and Brittney Spears. By no means do those bands sum up what I listen to, but it doesn’t matter.
“Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes. She has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.
Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag.She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she finds the book she wants. You see the weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a second hand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow.
She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.
Buy her another cup of coffee.
Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.
It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas and for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry, in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.
She has to give it a shot somehow.
Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.
Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who understand that all things will come to end. That you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.
Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilightseries.
If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.
You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.
You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.
Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.
I think when I was born, Fate played a mean trick and left my heart in North Carolina. She left me missing a piece. I think Fate gets bored and plays games. Well, I’ll show her. I’m going to win this game. Even if I do have to travel 900 miles to see your face.
In the last 3,500 years, there have only been 230 years of peace through out the civilized world. Depressing, isn't it? Doesn't that kill you a little bit? How many sons and daughters do people have to lose? How many best friends and lovers and parents need to lose their lives before we realize it's not worth it?
Upon wittingly making foolish decisions regarding life/love/pursuit of happiness/etc, it’s imperative to avoid making eye contact with yourself in the mirror for a week or so (“or so” varies with each situation).
You know what? Screw being "neutral." Make a stand for something, right or wrong. I'm sick of all these people proving how weak they are by not "picking a side" or how they don't want to "rock the boat." Guess what, kids? People who straddled the line, didn't make history.
It’s like he cleans compulsively. I’m not a slob, but well, I’m kind of a mess. My room is never dirty, just messy. It never bothered me before, but now I constantly feel like I need to clean. So basically, what I’m trying to say is, I AM FUCKING TIRED OF CLEANING MY ROOM.
Whenever I see that thing with Will Smith the 'I ain't even mad' one, I always think of you because you were telling me about it one day and how you loved it and then you used it later in a post to show me what it was. And that was my random story. Lol.
YES. It’s my fucking favorite thing. When people use it I get so stoked.
Girls who want to stop sexism need to start by stop hating other girls because “those girls are into hardcore for the guys” or because “girls are bitches”. Learn to be accepting to ALL new friends, not just the dudes.